• The Country Wren's Nest
  • Wandering Wren
  • DIY
  • Fashion
  • Wren Picks
  • About
  • Contact
The Country Wren's Nest

How to Support Those With Mental Illness This Holiday Season

11/21/2018

1 Comment

 
Picture
Photo by disastersofathirtysomething (https://www.instagram.com/disastersofathirtysomething/)
The Thanksgiving and Christmas holiday season has become a time of year I dread. This year I am having an especially hard time. I literally feel like the Grinch – which is so unlike me! Unfortunately, my mental illnesses have a grip on me this time around that no amount of meditation, yoga, baths, water, or wine has been able to remedy.

With so many commitments, the days fly by. Personally, this makes the time we spend with others feel less authentic and more like we’re just going through the motions in a valiant attempt to make everyone happy. Always watching the clock for the next place we need to be. Small talk. Eat. Small talk. Games. Next event. Repeat. Sound familiar? Not necessarily my style. Certainly not a series of events that is good for my mental health when I’m running on empty.

Some years I have the strength for this routine with a genuine smile on my face and in my heart. But to be candidly honest, this year is not one of them. My Advent Calendar is counting down the days until all of this is OVER, versus a countdown in anticipation of the magic of Christmas. With so many large group interactions on the calendar (my worst nightmare) paired with an already depressed outlook over the next few weeks I can feel my brain joyously preparing to overanalyze and vilify each moment, making me the bad guy in every situation. If this doesn’t happen to you, trust me, it’s the absolute worst and is only amplified by the weight of the holidays.

For me, getting through this period will require taking one day, one event, at a time. Attempting to be kind to myself following interactions that I have major anxiety about and reminding myself to be realistic about them along the way. I’m holding on to the hope that if I continue to come from a place of kindness with no intentional malice (it’s none of my business if someone reads it that way), no matter what I say or do should be OK. I’ll just have to show up as I can and give what I can. Which doesn’t feel like a lot at this point!

I wanted to share my experience with you before the holidays because I hope that it encourages a sense of empathy within you towards those in your life who have a known mental illness or are simply acting a little “off” this holiday season. We all carry a certain level of stress during this season, but for someone with a mental illness, that stress can trigger feelings that send them spiraling into a blinding black hole. <Slowly raises hand.>

Sometimes you can seemingly “have everything to be thankful for,” but when you are dealing with mental illness, gratitude for what you have can be hard to feel and express. Being surrounded by lots of family can be suffocating. Simple interactions can feel too heavy. A lot going on, in general and in the moment, can completely drain someone.

Here are a few things I’d love for you to keep in mind this holiday season as you spend time with family and friends who may have a mental illness:
  • Warm hugs are nice.
  • Make a special effort to make them feel comfortable, loved, and included.
  • Avoid making them the center of attention. (Having the spotlight shined on me is the worst possible thing for my anxiety.)
  • If they show up late or leave early, don’t take it personally. This is so important. They gave you what they could.
  • If they don’t show up, don’t take it personally. This is just as important as the point above. The reason they aren’t there most likely has absolutely nothing to do with you. What you should do is reach out. Not in a “wish you would have been here” way, but in an “I love you, let me know if you need anything” sort of way. Maybe ask if you can stop by with leftovers or if you can get together after the holidays to keep the person from isolating themselves.

​Although my view of the holidays may be through tainted lenses right now, believe me when I say I do truly hope you all have a wonderful holiday season that fills your heart with happiness and joy!
1 Comment
researchwriterkings link
12/4/2018 10:52:10 pm

Some people may have a mental illness or not, we should always support them and give them the love that they deserve. I am so happy that we have this kind of celebration where we see a different form of camaraderie. A thing that is not forced but rather a desire that comes from the heart. We should always be there for each other. Regardless of how tough and rough the situation could be, we should always be there for people who need us the most. Our mere presence is already everything for them!

Reply



Leave a Reply.

    Picture

    Augusta Sires

    I'm a Midwest girl on a path to peace. Finding happiness in life, not things. Join me.


    Archives

    March 2022
    August 2021
    April 2021
    August 2020
    May 2020
    January 2020
    December 2019
    November 2019
    October 2019
    September 2019
    August 2019
    July 2019
    May 2019
    April 2019
    February 2019
    January 2019
    December 2018
    November 2018
    October 2018
    August 2018
    July 2018
    June 2018
    May 2018
    March 2018
    February 2018
    January 2018
    December 2017
    November 2017
    October 2017
    September 2017
    August 2017
    July 2017
    June 2017
    May 2017
    April 2017
    March 2017
    February 2017
    January 2017
    December 2016
    November 2016
    October 2016
    September 2016
    August 2016
    July 2016
    June 2016
    May 2016
    April 2016
    March 2016
    February 2016
    January 2016
    December 2015

    Categories

    All
    Adulthood
    Adventure
    Anxiety
    Art
    Career
    Childhood
    Country
    Diet
    Family
    Farm Life
    Fashion
    Flexitarian
    Gardening
    Living With Intention
    Love
    Marriage
    Minimalism
    Music
    Nature
    Nest
    Simple Living
    Technology
    Travel
    Vegitarian
    Women
    Yoga

    RSS Feed

Proudly powered by Weebly
  • The Country Wren's Nest
  • Wandering Wren
  • DIY
  • Fashion
  • Wren Picks
  • About
  • Contact